I have come to the conclusion that we Africans pray more than we work. I see this everyday on my way to work, on the bus, literally everywhere, people constantly preaching prosperity and generally praying for blessings without doing the actual work that bring these things to life. This is the second episode of TANG Diaries and I am talking about prayers and some blogging related issues.

We pray yes, but do we actually pray for the right things? I recently learned through my daily morning devotional that praying for Mercy is more effective than praying for blessings. In the Bible, many of the people who received help from Jesus Christ pleaded for mercy when they laid eyes on him, there was always the phrase “Lord have mercy upon me” or something close. I used to focus on the “God bless me, provide for me, let all my heart desires come through” type of prayer, they got answered but not the way I wanted them. I started asking for mercy and started to get better results because na mercy sure pass.

Real life issues would get you eager to learn for the best ways to approach a lot of situations and if you are a multi-career person like me, you would know the essence of learning to pray the right way and for the right things. For instance, my store, I keep praying for sales & new customers rather than pray for more business opportunities so I can improve every aspect of the store. Maybe I also need to start praying for my customers? What is really the prayer of a business woman because I no too sabi that part.

Lately, I have been thinking of how people handle competition in their business & career and I realized that personally, I push these things to the back of my mind where they might surface at unwanted times and ruin my mood for some minutes before I successfully push them down again, although these days, they have been surfacing more often than not. Should I be mad at myself for stressing about competitors or just turn the them into constructive self criticism? The latter definitely sounds wiser because who my anger epp?

Blogging in some ways has now become competitive although I like how it encourages you to step up your game, it is very easy to forget the main reason you started in the first place and how to keep having fun at it because there are definitely fun parts if you indeed started blogging for a good reason. What got me here? One of my favorite fashion bloggers was contemplating on quitting because of all these, my advice to her was to take time out to re-strategize and if she is truly passionate about it, she would find herself back on course and doing so much better. Quick question abeg, why do we like making life hard for ourselves at times? I have heard of bloggers piling up debts just because they want to buy some particular luxury items so they can “SLAY” for the blog and “PEPPER” them on social media but who am I to judge with my awoof fashion, little (awesome) blog and little (awesome) number of readers? I can still speak my mind though because na me get my mouth.

I have been so tempted to quit blogging several times just because I would check my stats and not be impressed (STOP DOING THAT WUMI) or I see bloggers collaborating with brands (YOU WILL GET THERE WUMI) or seeing a lot of popping Instagram pictures & an overload of comments beneath them (REALLY WUMI, YOUR GLOW UP JUST STARTED) but I made the decision that “I cannot kill myself”. I started this blog because I could relate to a lot of young females wanting all that designer life and I decided not to wait till I can afford luxury items before looking stylish. This is why I would continue to bring affordable fashion to you all here, I want you to be able to see an outfit on me and recreate it with similar items in your wardrobe, that’s the goal and it gladdens my heart when I get tags or pictures sent to me from readers recreating my looks. This is what keeps me going, this is what makes it worth it, it’s not the money (that I really need to start making from the blog now LOL), it’s the fact that no matter how little I think this space is, I am doing well with it, yes there is room for a whole lot of improvement but I am happy because I dey try abeg. Go Girl!

What is your approach to dealing with competitors? What motivates you to do what you do? What’s your prayer point this month? Please drop your comments people, let’s talk.

If you missed Episode 1, read it here.

LoveandKisses from TANG

11 thoughts on “TANG Diaries EP2- Prayers & Blogging Issues

  1. That thing about prayer is so true. Prayer shouldn’t even be all about asking or demanding, what happened to being thankful.
    On the competition issue, I can relate 1 billion times over LOL 😂😂😂 If you can be having these thoughts then I should just mute. I’m taking a blogging break though so I can take time out for myself. I also blog so as to share my “Style on a Budget” tips and I really want it to be that way. We all want to monetize our blogs and there’s a ton of airspace for every bird to fly. I totally believe that it will happen in due time so long as we constantly put in the right amount of effort and still make it enjoyable for ourselves.

  2. Well said Wumi. This is so true. Many of us pray yet do nothing expecting “prosperity” to fall on our laps.

    As for blogging, yes we all want to monetize our blogs but we shouldn’t be so blinded by that we forget to work with and grow one another. If a brand reaches out to me and its not my niché I simply refer them to another. Like Ebun said, there’s enough airspace for birds to fly.

    1. I wish every blogger had that mindset but sadly that’s not the case. We will all be alright in the end. Thanks for reading hunny.

  3. You wouldn’t have said this better Wunmi concerning blogging. I make it clear to myself that I’m in no competition with anyone. I’m just here to have fun, create good vibes, talk to people through my blog and create diverse ways to maximize our clothes however the thing I am actually sad about is that some bloggers do not support others especially in networking, collaboration, brand reviews and even commenting on other blogs. The blogosphere should include sisters and brothers that help each other out http://www.adagirl.com.ng

  4. Prayer shouldn’t be a platform for demand, even the Bible says heaven helps those who help themselves. Hardwork is key! Concerning blogging, it’s been less than a year I started blogging and so many times I found myself asking the same questions. But I’ve come to realize that doing what makes you happy is what matters and everything will fall in place in due time.

  5. You hit the nail on the head! One has to learn to pray the right way. It is very very important. These days, blogging seems like a competition and sometimes, one just considers quitting. Personally, I just think about the reason I started and get motivated. Thank you for this. I’m glad to know other people are in this with me and will continue to motivate me with awesome posts like this.

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  6. Blogging is not a competition is one of the most popular statement concerning blogging and it’s one that does not come from people’s heart.

    Blogging to most is a competition and I think there’s an insecure phase that bloggers go through which makes us think like that.

    Self confidence in yourself & your art is key when dealing with the phase and I’m glad you’ve got it!

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